Tolerance is projected as a virtue, until we courageously start questioning beliefs.
What tolerance usually looks like is submissiveness, compromising, because it goes against the self. It comes from victim-beliefs, hierarchies of worthiness, unresolved trauma. One ends up tolerating more than one should or not enough where they should. The results are always a mixture of violence, regret, opposition, disputes etc., which all come from guilt and shame; self-loathing, self-alienation.
Tolerance is a poor remnant of a limited belief system based on self-ignorance.
Alternatively, what must take its place is understanding and cooperation, which doesn’t impose its will on anyone, doesn’t build hierarchies and war zones and doesn't "choose" between other and self.
It necessarily takes a lot of self-work; a change of mindset, which is made stable, reliable and practical with appliance.
Seek – learn – apply
A totally different mind zone and self-education discipline, not yet collectively known, and certainly nonsystemic! But once achieved, one cannot belong to the previous binary system of "either/or mentality anymore, which promotes condemnation, guilt, fear, defeat that leads to indifference.
Tolerance is a martyr's "virtue". It is NOT acceptance! It's a religious, self-binding, self-ignorance belief turned virtue that one tries to impose on the self. One needs top stop normalizing the unjust, the intrusive, calling it "sensitivity", "tolerance", "endurance".
Knowledge is not filling our mind with information. It is finding out what we know, how we apply that which we know and what it gives us as feedback, as well as to the world.
This can can take many turnings and many interpretations but that's precisely why it's a science; a seeking, a testing, a process, with no absolutes, no dogma.