You need the one as much you need the other! We only understand this when we’ve tried everything; every school, every theory, every technique, that promises deliverance from negative thinking and “a positive, joyous life”, in any shape or form. Then, having realized that we've been conning our self, we’re ready to begin the real journey, from a place of acceptance, from a state of witness, fully embracing life.
Each time your emotions take over and you get absorbed in your experience, those are your most educative experiences, which enrich your soul, no matter what they are or look like. From a state of witness, taking the path of less resistance, you walk through the darkness and difficulties, until you simplify it all in your heart and mind; everything comes to the light.
When you believe that you have no options or limited options that you’re uncomfortable in, you simply need to look deeper, become more sincere to open up your perception and receive more of what truly exists but you don't yet see. But if you try to figure out what to do before figuring out who you are/want to be, which is what most people do, you’ll stand in doubt, live in fear.
It’s a totally opposite mindset. People believe that what they
do (or don’t do) defines who they are. According to who? According to what? Who’s
the judge? Who’s the hangman or the defender? When? Why? What's the ultimate purpose? Real questions..
