We tend to believe that we know them. The urge to fill empty spaces with our own beliefs and assumptions, shaped by our needs and expectations, persists. This suspicion, fear, and insecurity stem from our own ignorance of ourselves.
We often compartmentalize people, just as we unconsciously confine ourselves within invisible boxes. There's a persistent assumption that reality is known and objective, and that our perception is the right one, especially in the face of rejection, doubt, or threat.
Being in the presence of another as equals requires great courage and trust, allowing them to express themselves freely and show us who they truly want to be. Achieving this demands humility, innocence, fearlessness, and years of self-mastery.
Throughout our evolution, we are tested at every step to teach us self-control, self-awareness, and the ability to meet others on equal ground. These tests come especially when we feel threatened, rejected, criticized, misinterpreted, or betrayed. It's crucial to evaluate our own presence, checking if we are honest, open, and compassionate or defensive, accusing, and insecure due to our own pain.
We are always responsible for our own responses, our own reactions, assumptions, emotions, and perception. Yet, it is essential to recognize that responsibility is preceded by accountability—both concepts misunderstood in this era of belief, judgment, and ignorance.
You can’t heal the people you love.
You can’t make choices for them.
You can give them your map, your insights, your wisdom gained.
You can walk alongside them, even when they feel alone.
Yet you can’t carry them on your back or you’re teaching them that they’re incapable or deficient , which they aren’t!